Survivors of child abuse need to know that it was not their fault, they did not deserve it and the shame belongs to their abusers not to them !
The future lies in our children – all of our children – even (or especially?) the abused ones.
As a survivor of abuse myself, and the mother of abused children, as someone who has spoken to countless survivors and studied the research and statistics, I strongly believe that the way to end child abuse lies in how we deal with those who have been abused. That is one big reason why I am so very proud to be a part of the FACAA team.
All too often, children who suffer any form of abuse, be it neglect, psychological, physical, emotional or sexual, feel that they have somehow deserved that abuse. They take it all on board and internalise it in ways that will haunt them for many years. On top of that of course is the actual trauma itself and the reactions and ripple effects from that.
Many develop PTSD, Complex PTSD, drug and alcohol issues, depression, relationship and trust issues, self harming behaviours and suicidal ideologies to name a few of the problems faced.
We know from the research on Critical Incident Management used around the world for assisting first responders that PTSD can be avoided if the traumatic event is dealt with swiftly and carefully. Very often of course, disclosures are made many years after the abuse has taken place so in those cases it cannot be avoided and it cannot always be avoided in cases where the abuse is immediately evident either.
What can be done though, in each and every case, is to ensure that that child, or those children, are cared for comprehensively, respectfully and professionally as soon as practically possible. We need this to become common practice, right across the board, with every agency that deals with abused children. We need to let those kids know that it was never their fault, that they did not deserve to be treated that way, that the shame is not theirs and never was theirs.
Taking the abuser or the child away is never enough. Telling the child things like “It’s over now”or “just try to forget about it” can actually do more harm in some ways, making them feel that it is not okay to keep thinking or talking about what has happened to them.
We need to be ready to hear them, to validate them, to care for them, to nurture and support them – right from the very beginning for as long as they need us.
If we can do that, we will be a lot closer to ending not only abuse but many of the problems faced by communities across Australia. Our future is in our hands, as are our children. We need to step up and shoulder that responsibility before it is too late.
Please note – this post is not in any way meant to imply that all people who have been abused will develop mental health, drug and alcohol, or other problems and it is not intended to offend anyone. I am simply talking about what we know for a fact becomes the reality for a large percentage of survivors (GE)
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Just live in the moment. Yesterday is gone tomorrow is nothing.
Reality is the minute of reality you live in.
Be grateful for each moment you have.
Be grateful to all , be kind to all living matter on earth. Time is your gift use it wisely .
Fear is non existent all.
Practise silence, share your food, patience , love and caring .
Is this a perfect world , No .
It is every person on earth to care for all living creatures, that’s our role together.
Fear is our inability to accept ourselves . Accept your Race we all bleed red blood.
Just accept folks religious backgrounds that you may not agree. Let other folk go around their world without judgement.
Perhaps all of this may give you peace and FEAR WILL NOT BE PART OF YOUR LIVES . t
THANK YOU J.J. FOR YOUR GIFT OF KNOWLEDGE.♥
I hope your birthday brings you everything you have ever wished for.
“And the most we can do when we get hurt, when other humans do not take care with one another’s lives and very existences, is breathe. Breathe in, admit to our pain, breathe out, well wishes and a heart-forward intent to send love out into the universe — for others, and also for ourselves.”
Most beautiful people of this new age, you are called to be at one with all life here and in the Heavens. To leave behind the egos of the past that have kept you in sickness and the destruction of all the beauty that surrounds you.
You may ask who do I talk about when I talk of the destructive ones here on earth. Of course your leaders are a representative of your thinking, but for all who live each day as it was thousands of years ago and still maintain the same systems today.
During this life you are in now, you have created opportunities to bring a new vision , a new way of being the enrichment of who you are, but most still surround themselves with the same friends, maintain familys of the old thinking and chain yourself to them and never to be free until you take your last breath, but then will you be free. While you are walking around you play the game of this person can fit into your life here, or there. Your ego gives only thought to how and who will be of service to you. Remember what I said about your last breath on earth, it is then transferred to a place of your creation and your old system of thinking and being will continue. Sickness , wars, loneliness, ruled over by people like yourself.
Your ego has no glory in it for it places you in isolation to control your world around you even when it may have brought you nothing but pain, your ego is that of the army of the fallen ones and is in opposition to God and all thing beautiful. You are not the isolated person you are from the galaxies but a part of them and you are a part of the one that unites you in the love of life. You are one with God. This you must choose and live now, for your chance to be the one who lives in the Glory of God will one day be gone and to cry out to The eternal who is all life and want to be a part of it without the illusion of Ego (on your own and in charge) then now is your opportunity to do so. When you have a event take place in your life that of a love one dying, or leaving, this is the time you make changes to your life to live as one with honoring all life and give Glory to the God of love. Let not yourself try and plug the gap in your life with someone who has left for someone else unless you are going to change your whole life with the values of love . They talk of the wisdom of the aged, in most cases the aged have maintained the old ways and continue to do so.The young create a new ways of control and also maintain the old ways.
I call out to you now. You are the called ones, You are the children of God whom all glory and as one with our Lord we will lead the way home. Understand Home is a vibration of Love and it will lift you on that day to the Heaven where all live as one in health and joy.